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[shubassdk]

My uncle told my dad yesterday that he has decided to come fully out of his transsexual closet, which means that from now on he is no longer Niels, but Elizabeth. My dad is having a much harder time with it than I thought he was going to have, but then again, it is his brother/sister, so I guess it isn't that weird.For me it didn't exactly come as a shock, which I think it did for my dad and sister. I've actually been waiting for this day for a couple of years now, because it's as if he's/she's been in this weird transitional stage for the last 4-5 years. He's wearing dresses and make-up and has long hair, but he's still very much a man, and he's been calling himself "Niels Elizabeth" or just "Niels E.". The last year or so I've been wondering more and more about it every time I've seen him, but the day has finally come. During that year I've thought up two possible "problems". 1/ I would have a problem with it if his children didn't want him to fully change his name and if he would do it anyway in spite of it, but they haven't got a problem and he's actually letting all three of them and my grandmom call him Niels, as the only three people. 2/ I've known him as a man for 15 years and as a 75 % man, 25 % woman for four years. All 19 of which I've called him "Niels". I think it's going to take a while for me to get used to calling him Elizabeth. A final "problem" I don't have, but that my sister has, is that it's going to be weird at birthdays where people from outside the family will come, but I don't see that as a problem. He's part of the family, no matter if he wants to live his life as a man or woman.



So there. Now it's out in the open.

Carsten stopped at work today. I was very close to tears when he said goodbye to me and to have a nice life. I think it's partly because I have some hero-worshipping going on, partly because of a mild crush, but mostly because he's Just such a nice guy. He's made me realise that "hip" guys can be really nice as well, that I shouldn't judge people before I get to know them. But I'm just so sad that he's out of my life. We've bonded so much the last few months...

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[erjika.livejournal.com]

*cheers for your uncle* Hopefully she'll be forgiving if you slip up her name every now and then. There's no bad intent behind it, it's just going to be difficult to remember the name change (like everyone calling Morientes 'Moro' instead of 'Nando' XD).

*snuggles and feeds you chocolate*

[shubassdk.livejournal.com]

Yeah, exactly. But it might take some time.

I'm shure she would be very happy that I wrote about this on my LJ ;) I actually showed it to her the last time my family was here (about May 4th). She was very interested in the veeery big transsexual communities here. It was very funny to watch XD

*snuggles you back and then runs away with the chocolate*

[erjika.livejournal.com]

*giggles* Tell her to get an LJ! She must become one with the Dark Side... XD

*tosses a Christian!plushie in your direction*

[shubassdk.livejournal.com]

Oh, no! That would be much too embarrassing! I think she decided that there is way too many teenagers/people in their 20's and too few in their 50's (which she is).

Ooooh!! *snuggles you and the Christian!plushie*

[erjika.livejournal.com]

ooh, she's got a point. :\ Oh well.

*is snuggled!*

[norwegianne.livejournal.com]

Looks more feminine than some women I know.

I figure that if you try to remember, that's what counts. Slipping a few times when using a name you've used for 19 years is natural.


And Carsten? Cell phone number, and ask him out. Since you don't work together, anymore, no risk if he says no. ;)

[shubassdk.livejournal.com]

I'm shure she would be very happy you think so ;)

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking as well. But it'll come, with time.

Nah, I don't think so. He just had his one year aniversary with his girlfriend, so I don't think it would result in anything. And I'm more like one of his mates than anything else... *sigh*

[lattara.livejournal.com]

Well, go her! (and, hey, you can tell her I think she's very pretty. 'cause she is)

Also, she seems like a very nice and sweet person. And, as someone once said, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. She's family. That's all that matters. If someone wants to be judgemental, he or she can go away. I'm not saying it's not *odd*, the situation - but there are problems and there are *problems*.

I always get sad when i have to let someone go. I was watching my class a couple of weeks ago, and I said to myself: in a year these people will be out of my life. And I had to go to the bathroom to cry a little.

[xavantina.livejournal.com]

Good for Elizabeth, I'll say. Getting used to calling her that might be hard, but I'm sure you'll get used to it eventually.

Dude, her hair is gorgeous. That's so unfair...

[benitle.livejournal.com]

Thumbs up for your aunt. I really admire people who have the courage to come out of the closet and just say 'Hey! This is the way I am. Accept me like that!'

I guess she'll soon laugh about people calling her 'Niels'. It's not easy if people are used to calling you like that all their lives.

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

*cheers for your uncle* That's pretty brave, but in your family, I'm sure he'll be fine :)

*hugs about Carsten*


(sorry for the minicomment, but the net was down all of last night, so I'm wading through a skip 130. *cuddles*)